Finally, someone who gets it.
When every message feels like a threat and everything you do gets used against you, you need someone who has been through it and knows how the process works. I help you figure out your next move, and then I help you make it.
Your lawyer handles the law. Your therapist helps you heal. I help with everything in between.
The email from your ex at 11 PM. The exchange that went sideways in the parking lot. The affidavit you have to help write and the mediation you keep rehearsing in your head. Most of a divorce happens in the days between appointments. That's where I come in.
Helps you process what happened and heal from it.
Helps you get organized, think it through and decide what to do next. Then helps you follow through.
Gives you legal advice and represents you in the legal process.
I work alongside both of them. When you walk into your lawyer's office organized and prepared, they can do their best work for you, and you spend your legal budget on the things only a lawyer can do.
Five things we do together
Every client is different, but most of our time together lands in these five places.
Build your evidence
Timelines, records and notes that are organized and easy for your lawyer to use. When something happens, we write it down properly. That's going to be great material for your affidavit.
Write the hard messages
What to send, what to leave alone, and how to answer the email that made your heart pound. We write it together before you hit send.
Get out of panic mode
Time out. Let's look at the facts. When your body is in fight or flight, everything feels urgent. We sort out what needs action today and what can wait until next week.
Make your legal budget go further
Lawyers bill for their time, and every email and phone call adds up. Coming in organized means less of that time goes to sorting through paperwork. If you don't have a lawyer yet, I can help you think about what to look for.
Get ready for the room
Mediation, questioning and court. What to expect, what to bring, how to stay composed, and when to ask for a break.
Lisa James was an absolute lifesaver during my divorce. Her guidance helped me stay organized, document everything properly, and make informed decisions. I highly recommend her to anyone going through a high-conflict separation.”
High conflict is where I built my experience. I help with the rest too.
Many of my clients are co-parenting with someone who is controlling, combative, or working to turn the kids against them. Others are in a separation that's hard without being a war, and they want to make good decisions before they sign anything.
I work with men and women, married or common-law, at every stage. Thinking about leaving. In the middle of it. Or years past the court order and still dealing with conflict.
The hardest truth I share with clients:
You can't control or change the other person. You can control what you do next. That's where we put our energy.
Three steps, at your pace
Discovery Call
30 minutes on Zoom. Tell me what's going on, ask me anything, and see if we're a good fit.
Power Session
90 minutes, one to one. We sort what matters, build your plan, and you leave with your next steps written down.
Monthly coaching
Ongoing support for as long as your matter takes, at the level you need right now.
The Divorce Compass
A private community with weekly live Q&A with me, short video lessons and other women who understand what you're dealing with. Founding members pay $49 a month.
Learn about the Compass →Guides and tools
The scripts, checklists and planning guides I use with clients, ready to download. Starting at $19.
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