About Lisa James — Divorce Conflict Solutions
About Lisa James

I built the help I couldn't find.

When my own divorce turned into a fight, everyone told me to get a lawyer. What I couldn't find was someone to help me understand what was happening, prepare for what came next, and figure out what to actually do between those legal appointments. So, I became that person for everyone who comes after me.

Lisa James — Divorce Conflict Solutions
My story

I believed every threat. I barely saw a judge.

I've stood exactly where you're standing. Every time he said "I'm going to tell the judge," I believed it. My body went into survival mode. I lost sleep, lost focus, and nearly lost myself over things that, in the end, never unfolded the way I feared they would.

What I needed back then wasn't another appointment to process how I felt, and it wasn't more hours on my legal bill. I needed someone beside me who understood high conflict, could help me separate the facts from the fear, and walk me through my options and what I could do next.

That person didn't exist. So I became her.

I started coaching in 2020, before divorce coaching was widely recognized or understood in the way it is today. In 2022, I became formally certified in high-conflict divorce & custody coaching, building on more than a decade of learning about conflict, trauma, family dynamics and the patterns that can keep people stuck.

Since then, I've worked alongside people navigating incredibly difficult situations, helping them become more organized, prepared, strategic, and confident in the decisions they make.

Now I'm widening the door: I'm training in Alternative Dispute Resolution so I can support the collaborative, lower-conflict journeys too. Because whether your divorce is a war or just overwhelming, the panic feels the same at 2 a.m. — and the plan is what changes everything.

How I work

Steady, strategic, and always in your corner

Four things I hold onto in every session, no matter how messy it gets.

Child-focused, always

Every strategy comes back to what protects your children and keeps you the parent the court can trust. Never point-scoring for its own sake.

Evidence over emotion

When something awful happens, I help you turn it into calm, organized records your lawyer can work from, if it ever comes to that.

Keep you regulated

You make terrible decisions in fight-or-flight. My job is to slow your heart rate down so your best thinking can show up.

Make your money work harder

Divorce can get expensive quickly. I help you stay organized, prepare before professional appointments, and focus your time and resources where they matter most, helping you avoid unnecessary costs and costly mistakes.

Where I fit

Not your therapist. Not your lawyer. Someone who has been there.

Your therapist tends to your heart. Your lawyer fights the legal battle. I'm the one in the middle building your evidence, coaching your communication, prepping you for the room, and keeping you steady the whole way through.

It's coaching, not therapy or legal advice. And it might be the missing piece you didn't know you were allowed to have.

Let's talk about your situation.

Thirty minutes, no pressure. Just a real conversation about where you are and how I can help.

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Divorce Conflict Solutions

Divorce and custody coaching with Lisa James. Someone who gets it. Calgary and virtual.

Get in touch

Book a 30-minute call [email protected] 587-837-0631 Mon to Sat · Mountain Time
© 2026 Divorce Conflict Solutions Divorce Conflict Solutions Inc. provides divorce coaching. Lisa James is a certified divorce coach, not a lawyer and not a therapist, and is not licensed by any health or legal body. Nothing here is legal advice or therapy. For legal questions see a lawyer; for mental health support see a therapist. We can recommend either. In a crisis call 911, or call or text 988 in Canada.