When Your Ex Ignores the Agreement (Again!)—Here’s How to Take Back Control
Let’s talk about a frustration so many co-parents face: you’re following the parenting agreement, but your ex acts like it’s optional.
Missed calls. Ignored messages. Blown-off appointments. Sound familiar?
It’s maddening, unfair, and exhausting. But here’s the truth—you can’t control them, no matter how much they should be doing the right thing. What you can control? How you respond.
If you’re sick of feeling powerless every time they break the agreement, here’s your game plan.
Step 1: Document Everything
I know—it’s annoying. You shouldn’t have to keep track of every little thing. But when you’re dealing with someone who refuses to follow agreements, documentation is your best friend.
✅ Keep a simple log of missed calls, ignored messages, or broken agreements.
✅ Save screenshots of texts and emails.
✅ Stick to the facts—dates, times, and what was (or wasn’t) done.
💡 Pro Tip: Documentation isn’t about “catching” them—it’s about protecting yourself if you ever need to escalate things.
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Step 2: Call It Out (The Right Way)
It’s tempting to send a long-winded text about how irresponsible and frustrating they are. But that’s exactly what they want—a reaction.
Instead, keep it short, neutral, and to the point. Here’s how:
📌 Wrong: “You never follow the agreement, and I’m sick of it! Why can’t you just do what you’re supposed to?”
📌 Right: “Per our agreement, calls are to be facilitated within 24 hours. I requested one on [date], and it hasn’t happened yet. When will this be arranged?”
See the difference? No drama. No emotion. Just accountability.
👉 Not sure how to word your response? Let's have a discussion and let me help you to call your ex out the right way.
Step 3: Decide Your Next Move
If this was a one-time slip, maybe you move on.
But if this is a pattern, it’s time to take action.
Ask yourself:
Do I need to reinforce my boundaries?
Is it time to push for mediation or legal enforcement?
How much longer am I willing to let this slide?
👉 Not sure what your next step should be? Let’s figure it out together. Book a Strategic Intake Session
The Hard Truth (That You Need to Hear)
You are not overreacting.
You are not being unreasonable.
And you are not powerless.
Your ex doesn’t get to rewrite the rules because they feel like it.
You can’t control their choices, but you can control your response. And if you’re ready to handle this the smart way, let’s talk.
📞 Book a call with me today. I’ll help you navigate your next steps so you can stop spinning your wheels and start getting results.
You’ve got this, and I’ve got you.
