When Your Mind Won’t Let You Sleep: Late-Night Thoughts & Self-Gaslighting
You’re exhausted, but your brain won’t shut up. Instead of resting, you’re stuck replaying old conversations, questioning past decisions, and worst of all—gaslighting yourself into believing that maybe you were the problem all along.
“Maybe I overreacted.”
“Maybe it wasn’t that bad.”
“Maybe I was expecting too much.”
Sound familiar?
Let’s Call It What It Is: Mental Rewiring Gone Wrong
If you’ve been through high-conflict relationships, toxic dynamics, or years of people-pleasing, your brain is trained to self-doubt. It’s a survival mechanism. You learned that questioning yourself before someone else could was safer.
But here’s the truth: You’re not overthinking. You’re processing. And if your mind is running in circles, it’s likely because you’ve spent too much time being silenced, dismissed, or manipulated into believing your feelings weren’t valid.
So how do you stop gaslighting yourself and finally get some peace?
The Late-Night Thought Detox: A 3-Step Reset
1. Flip the Script: What Would You Tell Your Best Friend?
If your best friend came to you with the same doubts you have right now, what would you say to them? Would you tell them they’re “too sensitive” or “making a big deal out of nothing”? Absolutely not. You’d validate them. So why don’t you deserve the same kindness?
2. Ask: Is This Thought Helping or Hurting Me?
When you’re spiraling, pause and ask:
❌ Is this thought productive?
❌ Is it solving a problem?
❌ Or is it just keeping me in a loop of self-blame?
If the answer is hurting, not helping, then it’s time to let that thought pass like a cloud in the sky—acknowledge it, but don’t hold onto it.
3. Ground Yourself in the Present
Right now, in this exact moment, you are safe.
You are not in that argument from last year. You are not back in that toxic situation. You are here. Breathe. Feel the weight of your body against the bed. Wiggle your fingers. Remind yourself:
"I am allowed to rest."
"I don’t need to have all the answers tonight."
"I deserve peace just as much as anyone else."
You Deserve Better Than an Overthinking Spiral
The past is done. The late-night replay sessions aren’t helping you heal—they’re keeping you stuck. And you? You are too powerful to be stuck.
So when the thoughts come creeping in, remind yourself: I am not crazy. I am healing. And I refuse to gaslight myself into staying small.
Now, get some rest. You deserve it. ❤️
