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The 5 Most Common Mistakes Parents Make When Messaging a High-Conflict Ex (And How to Avoid Them)

The 5 Most Common Mistakes Parents Make When Messaging a High-Conflict Ex (And How to Avoid Them)

Lisa James
Published on: 28/07/2025

Five mistakes almost every parent makes when messaging a high-conflict ex, and what to write instead so the message holds up later.

When Every Message Feels Like Chaos: Why Co-Parenting Communication Leaves You Drained

When Every Message Feels Like Chaos: Why Co-Parenting Communication Leaves You Drained

Lisa James
Published on: 20/07/2025

Every message from your co-parent leaves you drained before you have replied. Why that happens, and how to change the way you handle the inbox.

It's Not "High Conflict." It's Coercive Control, And It's Strategic

It's Not "High Conflict." It's Coercive Control, And It's Strategic

Lisa James
Published on: 27/06/2025

What gets called high conflict is often coercive control, and it is deliberate. How to recognise the pattern and why the difference matters.

When Father's Day Hurts: Grieving a Loss You're Still Forced to Co-Parent With

When Father's Day Hurts: Grieving a Loss You're Still Forced to Co-Parent With

Lisa James
Published on: 16/06/2025

Father's Day is not simple when you are grieving the father your child has and still have to co-parent with him. How to get through the day.

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